THE ESSENCE OF COURTSHIP TOWARDS MARRIAGE
Brethren, often times most people indulge in strenuous thought that doesn’t really worth it or which may be contrary to the issue at hand. Please before I proceed, in advance I wish to sincerely beg for your pardon because I’m of the view that I might be strident in this edition. I therefore pray that such intention won’t warrant a strife. Believe me, I truly don’t intend to hurt any soul, rather my paramount motive is to resurrect many.
At about eight O’clock in the morning (8.00 am) penultimate Monday, September 23 to be precise, I was about heading to the bathroom to have my usual morning shower in my family residence in Lagos State; I embarked on a trip to Lagos for some business transactions. Immediately my cell phone rang and the caller happened to be one of my friends residing at Owerri in Imo State. According to him, he actually called to inform me that he was about heading to my personal residence (lodge) in Owerri to discuss a very critical issue with me. Unfortunately I told him that I was presently in Lagos State; an information that suddenly brought a sad mood to his person. Yes I felt it because he sighed in subsequent to the notice. Having sensed the urgency of it, I promised to call him back after some minutes so we can have the discussion on phone; he was so delighted to receive the pledge. And by God’s grace, I fulfilled the promise.
As soon as I called him, he exclaimed that there was fire on the mountain. A statement that ushered in a question, “How?” which was the only word that managed to escape from my mouth. In response to my question, he hurriedly said that he just lost his fiancée to someone else; to the best of my knowledge, this is a woman he was about taking to the altar in few weeks time, and they just met about two months ago. I tried to ascertain what actually transpired between the two parties that has led to such ugly moment. The summary of the ordeal was that he caught her red handedly in her own bed with another man. They were making ‘love’ to each other I presume, because he thought it was inconsequential to give me the detail on a phone conversation. I really felt sorry for the poor man, thereby I pledged that I would come to his place the very moment I arrive at Owerri so we can round off the discussion one-on-one. Though I urged him to be a man and never allow the plight to disorganize him.
The bone of contention of whatever sermon I would be dishing out today is that, in anything we do, we must endeavour to consider time. If we fail to create time in respect to the prospects of any worthwhile activity we find ourselves, definitely the activity is liable to be found in shambles irrespective of the nature of the venture/activity. In other words, time remains the most vital tool when it calls for success in any of our respective strides. Honestly, you have no choice in this aspect; thus, it (time) remains a threshold whenever the issue of success/progress is in question
It beats my psyche intensely each time I watch people who live with the ideology that money can withstand or buy any situation one wishes. Such ideology is simply a fallacy; if not a daydream. Frankly, money can never buy intimacy. The only man that has the true potential to buy the aforementioned tool (intimacy) is no other person than ‘Time’. Q.E.D. Let’s ride on!
If you’re into a certain relationship and you think that with your money/wealth the woman in your life is all yours, then apparently you’ve been living with a deadly misconception. At this juncture, I put it up to you that if you are into any affair with a man/woman as the case may be and you desire to settle down with him/her, you must devote your time to such relationship if you sincerely want your wish to metamorphose into reality. Believe me, you can never bribe time; you must follow the due process whenever the issue of time is at hand or being considered. In other words, no one can maneuver it regardless of how powerful or wealthy he/she is.
I keep on telling people that the best thing that would happen to a man/woman is to marry his/her sister/brother as the case may be. Please don’t get me wrong; when I say getting married to your sister/brother, I meant getting married to your best friend. The best friend anyone can have or boast of, is someone who has/shares the same blood with you. Even if someone is not your sister/brother, he/she can share same blood with you if you both are devoted to each other. And such situation can never be possible if you fail to accommodate time to the fullness. In a nutshell, time can make a total stranger in your life to emerge as your bosom brother/sister in future.
One who shares same blood with you can never think of hurting you under normal circumstance unless he/she is being placed under a certain spiritual influence. This is the reason prayers are very essential in any relationship. Thus, if you are into a relationship you adore so much, you must endeavour to create time for it for the interest of its successs and as well your happiness. In addition, both of you ought to inculcate prayers.
If you’re dating someone and you wish to settle down with him/her, there’s need to experience intimacy prior to such eternal/everlasting union (marriage). And, this is where courtship sets in.
Courtship is an activity in which a man and a woman spend a lot of time together because they intend to get married. Going by the above definition, you will agree with me that courtship can never be successful if time is not adhered to. Devoting precious time to a relationship brings absolute understanding and trust amongst the partners involved which automatically yields true/genuine love. On this note, I wish to state unequivocally that the efficacy of courtship in any relationship cannot be overemphasized. If you’re still single and intend having/establishing a happy home in future, then I urge you to embrace this fact today; and I bet you, you would be glad you did.
Mind you, courtship coupled with sex is likely to ruin your intention/plan. Such attitude might make your partner to detest you at the long run with the aim of wanting to taste something different as regards sex/romance. But if you totally abstain from such act, your ultimate prayer would be to have/witness a day whereby you both would taste each other; therefore you would be earnestly yearning for a moment of marital vow. Above all, premarital sex is evil.
Brethren, many homes have collapsed because the partners involved failed to embrace courtship. The worst thing that would happen to a man/woman is to end up settling down with a stranger. Think about it!
_____________________
COMR. FRED NWAOZOR
frednwaozor@gmail.com
Tuesday, 1 October 2013
Monday, 30 September 2013
Criminality in Begging
ALARMING RATE OF CRIMINALITY IN BEGGING
The means through which the unhealthy poor masses or the handicapped live by the activity of asking other people for money or food has contributed immensely to the high level of corruption in Nigeria.
The main problem attached to this is that, it’s no longer practised by the people it’s meant for, rather it’s being practised by the healthy masses. The increase in the number of lazy bones in our society could be attributed to such ugly act because, healthy people that are meant to be occupied with many reasonable unskilled labours end-up as beggars due to hard times.
Many Nigerians disguise themselves pretending to be handicapped in order to earn for their living through begging. This is blasphemy! Sometimes I wonder if people still have some respect for their creator, or if they actually know that they were created by a certain supreme being. Even, in most cases, they leave their place of birth for elsewhere which may be located very far from their home, for the sake of recognition or any embarrassment that’s likely to arise.
One may ask if this country is dedicated to beggars because, even some of the healthy immigrants from the neighbouring countries trouped-in purposely for begging. On this note, I’ve started believing on one of the most popular philosophies that says, “Wonders shall never end!” We may even conclude that, if something drastic is not done to eradicate this demeaning act, we might wake-up one morning to see that the entire labour force in Nigeria had indulged in the menace.
Due to the above ridiculous act, begging can as well be referred to as one of the glaring handicaps to development, because most members of the productive class of the nation are into it. Believe me, the only way we could be productive and useful to this nation is by occupying our minds with what we can do for the nation, and not the reverse. By so doing, Nigeria would be rated as one of the most peaceful and God-fearing countries in the world. So let’s be productive instead of being destructive.
The handicapped could as well be productive if they can occupy their respective minds with the above statement. For instance, I was amazed the day I saw a man with only one arm mending foot wears in one of the federal polytechnics in the country. Besides, the famous sound producer and renowned musician, Steve Wonder, from the United States of America (U.S.A) is a blind man.
The aforementioned criminal act may be caused by misfortune, influence, or inadequate up-bringing of children. But above all, laziness ought to be held responsible as the major cause of the anomaly. Let’s ride on!
Someone may be influenced by his/her friend(s) to embark on begging by convincing him/her that, the business is more lucrative than any other business/venture one could lay his hands on, and it requires no capital. He/she will quickly join the chorus out of ignorance since it’s a capital-free venture and as well creates enormous income for the participants.
The entire members of a wretched home may embark on begging to seek for survival, due to lack of optimism. Also, some poor masses indulge in it because they think they are irrelevant and of no consequence in the society they belong.
If a child was born and bred up in a corrupt or indecent environment, he/she may decide going into begging because it requires no skill or capital, owing to the sense of reasoning of the people around him/her. This’s the reason a famous philosopher, Karl Marl of the blessed memory, says, “Environment determines the action of the mind.”
Laziness should be seen as the basic cause of this act because, those people would have considered doing any of the available unskilled labours within their respective societies (environments), but they intend not to struggle or do any stressful work to earn for their living.
The parents have a role to play here. They should endeavour to back-up their children’s up-bringing with sound religious background. They should from time-to-time ensure that, they feed them with strong religious/social quotations and statements that would encourage them to be ambitious, determined, and above all, optimistic irrespective of the circumstances they may be facing.
And to the people involved; please always dream of becoming a great man/woman in future because tomorrow may bring a total change in your life which might presently seem devastating. Take note of this; “Many are born great, many achieve greatness, whilst many have greatness entrusted upon them.” Thus, if you’re not born great, try to achieve it; but if you’re not equal to the task, always remember and ensure to have it at the back of your mind that, you might have greatness entrusted upon you. So never give up!
The existing Non-Governmental Organizations (NGOs) ought to constantly embark on massive seminars and workshops that would go a long way sensitizing the minds of the populace on the dangers of this barbaric attitude.
Above all, the concerned government authority should look into this overwhelming issue with the sole motive of eradicating the blasphemous act which is likely to pollute the mind of all the poor masses in near future. On this note, those who immigrated into the country with the aim of begging should be captured and deported to their respective countries of origin. This would help to minimize the level of corruption and human-trafficking on our roads.
Let’s come together and make Nigeria a better place to live. The criminals in question should also understand the fact that, ‘He who lives in a glass house doesn’t throw stone.” Think about it!
______________________
FRED NWAOZOR
frednwaozor@gmail.com
twitter@fdnnwaozor
The means through which the unhealthy poor masses or the handicapped live by the activity of asking other people for money or food has contributed immensely to the high level of corruption in Nigeria.
The main problem attached to this is that, it’s no longer practised by the people it’s meant for, rather it’s being practised by the healthy masses. The increase in the number of lazy bones in our society could be attributed to such ugly act because, healthy people that are meant to be occupied with many reasonable unskilled labours end-up as beggars due to hard times.
Many Nigerians disguise themselves pretending to be handicapped in order to earn for their living through begging. This is blasphemy! Sometimes I wonder if people still have some respect for their creator, or if they actually know that they were created by a certain supreme being. Even, in most cases, they leave their place of birth for elsewhere which may be located very far from their home, for the sake of recognition or any embarrassment that’s likely to arise.
One may ask if this country is dedicated to beggars because, even some of the healthy immigrants from the neighbouring countries trouped-in purposely for begging. On this note, I’ve started believing on one of the most popular philosophies that says, “Wonders shall never end!” We may even conclude that, if something drastic is not done to eradicate this demeaning act, we might wake-up one morning to see that the entire labour force in Nigeria had indulged in the menace.
Due to the above ridiculous act, begging can as well be referred to as one of the glaring handicaps to development, because most members of the productive class of the nation are into it. Believe me, the only way we could be productive and useful to this nation is by occupying our minds with what we can do for the nation, and not the reverse. By so doing, Nigeria would be rated as one of the most peaceful and God-fearing countries in the world. So let’s be productive instead of being destructive.
The handicapped could as well be productive if they can occupy their respective minds with the above statement. For instance, I was amazed the day I saw a man with only one arm mending foot wears in one of the federal polytechnics in the country. Besides, the famous sound producer and renowned musician, Steve Wonder, from the United States of America (U.S.A) is a blind man.
The aforementioned criminal act may be caused by misfortune, influence, or inadequate up-bringing of children. But above all, laziness ought to be held responsible as the major cause of the anomaly. Let’s ride on!
Someone may be influenced by his/her friend(s) to embark on begging by convincing him/her that, the business is more lucrative than any other business/venture one could lay his hands on, and it requires no capital. He/she will quickly join the chorus out of ignorance since it’s a capital-free venture and as well creates enormous income for the participants.
The entire members of a wretched home may embark on begging to seek for survival, due to lack of optimism. Also, some poor masses indulge in it because they think they are irrelevant and of no consequence in the society they belong.
If a child was born and bred up in a corrupt or indecent environment, he/she may decide going into begging because it requires no skill or capital, owing to the sense of reasoning of the people around him/her. This’s the reason a famous philosopher, Karl Marl of the blessed memory, says, “Environment determines the action of the mind.”
Laziness should be seen as the basic cause of this act because, those people would have considered doing any of the available unskilled labours within their respective societies (environments), but they intend not to struggle or do any stressful work to earn for their living.
The parents have a role to play here. They should endeavour to back-up their children’s up-bringing with sound religious background. They should from time-to-time ensure that, they feed them with strong religious/social quotations and statements that would encourage them to be ambitious, determined, and above all, optimistic irrespective of the circumstances they may be facing.
And to the people involved; please always dream of becoming a great man/woman in future because tomorrow may bring a total change in your life which might presently seem devastating. Take note of this; “Many are born great, many achieve greatness, whilst many have greatness entrusted upon them.” Thus, if you’re not born great, try to achieve it; but if you’re not equal to the task, always remember and ensure to have it at the back of your mind that, you might have greatness entrusted upon you. So never give up!
The existing Non-Governmental Organizations (NGOs) ought to constantly embark on massive seminars and workshops that would go a long way sensitizing the minds of the populace on the dangers of this barbaric attitude.
Above all, the concerned government authority should look into this overwhelming issue with the sole motive of eradicating the blasphemous act which is likely to pollute the mind of all the poor masses in near future. On this note, those who immigrated into the country with the aim of begging should be captured and deported to their respective countries of origin. This would help to minimize the level of corruption and human-trafficking on our roads.
Let’s come together and make Nigeria a better place to live. The criminals in question should also understand the fact that, ‘He who lives in a glass house doesn’t throw stone.” Think about it!
______________________
FRED NWAOZOR
frednwaozor@gmail.com
twitter@fdnnwaozor
Saturday, 28 September 2013
Beauty of the Heart
BEAUTY OF THE HEART: AN ANGELIC EPITOME
It’s another bright day for brighter edition. This shouldn’t take our time because it’s safe-explanatory. Many have spoken on the issue of beauty. It’s time for me to speak. As an Apostle of God, my interest should be to tell you nothing but the truth. I must let you know that this is a critical issue that requires a critical approach.
Beauty is the state or quality of being beautiful. One or something is said to be beautiful when you find him/it very attractive or pleasant. You can also describe something that someone does as beautiful if it’s done very skillfully. In this edition, the context of the ‘beautiful’ we’re looking at lies in the former. On the other hand, one can be referred to as an angelic person when he/she is very good, kind and calm.
Going by the topic, you’ll agree with me that, personification as a figure of speech is into play or being utilized. That is, heart as an object was personified since angelic as a quality is only found among mankind. This is one of the reasons I called it a critical issue. Let’s proceed!
Yes, beauty can lie in the heart. That is, the heart could be beautiful. Here, the heart in question is that of human being. Thus, it (the heart) represents mankind. So for the beauty of the heart to be referred to as an angelic epitome, it means that it supersedes that of the facial outlook. Meaning that beauty of the face and/or skin is not enough to prove that one is truly beautiful. Angelic idiosyncrasies or endowments lie in the heart. It’s only one’s heart that can tell or prove to you how good, kind or calm he/she is. And these are the qualities of an angel. On this note, only one with such qualities could be said to be truly beautiful. Summarily true beauty is one of the qualities of the heart, and has nothing to do with the face, posture/stature, height, complexion, or nasal shape. Therefore beauty of the former ought to be of most concern to people instead of that of any of the latter. And this is where character comes in.
For over the years, many have derailed in search for true beauty because their only interest lie on facial beauty. Though facial beauty or countenance might be considered during such circumstance, but that shouldn’t be enough to convince you that the person is truly beautiful. You have to concentrate on the heart; that is, the person’s character. This should be your priority because it’s the most important aspect of beauty. If you have one whose heart is beautiful as a friend, you should be rest assured that you’ll always be filled with unquantifiable happiness due to his/her presence in your life. On the contrary, the joy that comes from the facial beauty has a limit. It turns sour, fades, and expires. Believe me, these are facts. So while searching for or considering a friend, partner or spouse, your major interest should lie on how beautiful the person’s heart is.
Brethren, you don’t need a prophet to tell or inform you how beautiful a certain heart is. You can find it out yourself. This is where time comes in. Unlike facial beauty or countenance that can be detected by mere looking at the person involved, in this case you have to bring out your time to examine his/her character(s). No time would be too much for this close examination. While taking your time, put it at the back of your mind that, you’re searching for happiness that shall yield everlasting profit. So you’ve to earn your wage(s). And you can’t achieve that without considering or abiding by time. It’s better you take millions of seconds to acquire what would make you live long than, to take few seconds and obtain what shall lead to your eternal state of doom.
How are you expected to utilize the aforementioned time? You should ensure that both of you spend time together often. Create various different occasions/circumstances for the relationship. This may involve the good or ugly circumstance which ought to be cough up by you. So it may require disguise; yes, you may need to create some fake occasions in order to unfold some hidden attitudes of your partner(s). Why this is very important is that, most time your partner may disguise his/herself to prove to you that his/her heart is pure/beautiful. Don’t forget, “Not all that glitters is gold.” But if you can create series of events involving disguise when necessary, the truth must be disclosed/unveiled. Honestly, the truth can only be hidden for some (a short) time after which it explodes. Sure, the truth explodes when it’s due.
In a nutshell, you’ve to take your precious time if you truly want the best. If you can abide by this, you will surely testify that, beauty of the heart is truly an angelic epitome (symbol). Think about it!
____________________
FDN NWAOZOR
frednwaozor@gmail.com
It’s another bright day for brighter edition. This shouldn’t take our time because it’s safe-explanatory. Many have spoken on the issue of beauty. It’s time for me to speak. As an Apostle of God, my interest should be to tell you nothing but the truth. I must let you know that this is a critical issue that requires a critical approach.
Beauty is the state or quality of being beautiful. One or something is said to be beautiful when you find him/it very attractive or pleasant. You can also describe something that someone does as beautiful if it’s done very skillfully. In this edition, the context of the ‘beautiful’ we’re looking at lies in the former. On the other hand, one can be referred to as an angelic person when he/she is very good, kind and calm.
Going by the topic, you’ll agree with me that, personification as a figure of speech is into play or being utilized. That is, heart as an object was personified since angelic as a quality is only found among mankind. This is one of the reasons I called it a critical issue. Let’s proceed!
Yes, beauty can lie in the heart. That is, the heart could be beautiful. Here, the heart in question is that of human being. Thus, it (the heart) represents mankind. So for the beauty of the heart to be referred to as an angelic epitome, it means that it supersedes that of the facial outlook. Meaning that beauty of the face and/or skin is not enough to prove that one is truly beautiful. Angelic idiosyncrasies or endowments lie in the heart. It’s only one’s heart that can tell or prove to you how good, kind or calm he/she is. And these are the qualities of an angel. On this note, only one with such qualities could be said to be truly beautiful. Summarily true beauty is one of the qualities of the heart, and has nothing to do with the face, posture/stature, height, complexion, or nasal shape. Therefore beauty of the former ought to be of most concern to people instead of that of any of the latter. And this is where character comes in.
For over the years, many have derailed in search for true beauty because their only interest lie on facial beauty. Though facial beauty or countenance might be considered during such circumstance, but that shouldn’t be enough to convince you that the person is truly beautiful. You have to concentrate on the heart; that is, the person’s character. This should be your priority because it’s the most important aspect of beauty. If you have one whose heart is beautiful as a friend, you should be rest assured that you’ll always be filled with unquantifiable happiness due to his/her presence in your life. On the contrary, the joy that comes from the facial beauty has a limit. It turns sour, fades, and expires. Believe me, these are facts. So while searching for or considering a friend, partner or spouse, your major interest should lie on how beautiful the person’s heart is.
Brethren, you don’t need a prophet to tell or inform you how beautiful a certain heart is. You can find it out yourself. This is where time comes in. Unlike facial beauty or countenance that can be detected by mere looking at the person involved, in this case you have to bring out your time to examine his/her character(s). No time would be too much for this close examination. While taking your time, put it at the back of your mind that, you’re searching for happiness that shall yield everlasting profit. So you’ve to earn your wage(s). And you can’t achieve that without considering or abiding by time. It’s better you take millions of seconds to acquire what would make you live long than, to take few seconds and obtain what shall lead to your eternal state of doom.
How are you expected to utilize the aforementioned time? You should ensure that both of you spend time together often. Create various different occasions/circumstances for the relationship. This may involve the good or ugly circumstance which ought to be cough up by you. So it may require disguise; yes, you may need to create some fake occasions in order to unfold some hidden attitudes of your partner(s). Why this is very important is that, most time your partner may disguise his/herself to prove to you that his/her heart is pure/beautiful. Don’t forget, “Not all that glitters is gold.” But if you can create series of events involving disguise when necessary, the truth must be disclosed/unveiled. Honestly, the truth can only be hidden for some (a short) time after which it explodes. Sure, the truth explodes when it’s due.
In a nutshell, you’ve to take your precious time if you truly want the best. If you can abide by this, you will surely testify that, beauty of the heart is truly an angelic epitome (symbol). Think about it!
____________________
FDN NWAOZOR
frednwaozor@gmail.com
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