Who's Your Best Friend?

WHO’S YOUR BEST FRIEND?

Greetings brethren! Honestly I dreamt of you last night. And believe me; what I saw in the dream disclosed to me that we were almost close to the point where the best is kept for us.

I’ve reiterated the fact often times that everyone needs to be faced with an option so he/she can make a choice; because if there’s no option, one may think, albeit ignorantly, that what he has is the best. In other words, ‘best’ is a superlative adjective which comes up after thorough comparison.

Two weeks ago during my business stay in Jos –Plateau State, I used the opportunity to meet one of my old time friends residing in the city. The young man in question recently took a woman to the altar barely three months ago, and I wasn’t opportune to attend the remarkable ceremony. The moment I entered his sitting room, he ushered the newest bride for a formal introduction. Having introduced me to her, he began by saying, “Engineer Fred, meet my best friend and soul mate…”, referring to the woman of the moment. That is by the way; please pardon the digression.

The topic before us is “Who’s your best friend?” The topic might seem or sound trivial but frankly speaking, it bears a very critical issue that requires to be treated with all manner of seriousness coupled with thoroughness.

In one of my previous publications titled “Commemorating the 2014 International Day of Friendship…” which had to do with the annual anniversary of the Int’l Day of Friendship as mandated by the United Nations (UN), I took my precious time to analyze extensively the real meaning of a friend. I made it known that, a friend is a person one likes and knows well. Furthermore, I stated that it could be defined as a supporter of a cause or a staunch fan of a certain organization.

The above definition implies that, a friend is the first person(s) you wish to call whenever you receive good news. Needless to say; a friend is that person or fellow that would like to accompany you on the most boring errands or trips and make them seem fun.

Significantly, going by the aforementioned statement, your best friend is one of your friends in whom you’re well pleased and wish to share all your blessings or burdens with. Mind you, one could boast of more than one best friend. But the problem we invariably face is how to know who is/are truly our best friend(s). Or in a nutshell, the qualities that make one your best friend. This is where the interest of today’s edition lies. Let’s ride on!

Beloved, there are certain distinct idiosyncrasies that a friend, brother, or sister bound to possess before he/she can be referred to as your best friend. Or, before you regard him/her as your ‘best friend’. You can see that I made mention of a brother or sister, because your relative can also be regarded as your friend; yes, one can be introduced as your brother or sister as well as your friend. You must be mindful of the fact that, not all your relations are your friends, considering the definition of ‘a friend’ stated above.

We have already made it clear that, one can never make a choice or acquire the best if there are no options. So for you to acquire the best, you must be placed with an option. The option would enable you to compare or contrast between the things or persons involved.

Let’s go straight to the point regarding who you’re meant to be seen or addressed as your best friend. Since your friend is that first person you wish to call whenever you receive any good or bad news as the case may be, then your best friend is that person who wishes to call you whenever he/she receives any good or bad news, this signifies that, there must be reciprocation in the kind of affection or feeling you have for the person you call your best friend. Therefore, as you wish to hear from him or her come rain come shine, he/she is also expected to wish that he/she hears from you in any circumstance. There’s no two ways about it.

Suffice to say that, anyone you regard as your best friend is expected to be there for you just as you are there for him or her. Summarily, the kind of affections that exist in best friendship must be reciprocal. The two or more parties involved must be there for each other regardless of the circumstance. We must have this at the back of our minds, so that, we won’t continue to derail as regards whom we regard as our ‘best friend’.

Regarding the above analyses, the first person that ought to be seen as one’s best friend is his/her mother, husband or wife as the case might be, because friendship between a child and his/her mother remains the best ever, likewise that of a man/woman and his or her wife/husband just as my bosom friend in Jos introduced his darling wife as his best friend.

At this juncture, I ask once again: who’s your best friend? Think about it!

 

FRED DOC NWAOZOR

frednwaozor@gmail.com