Who's Your Best Friend?

WHO’S YOUR BEST FRIEND?

Greetings brethren! Honestly I dreamt of you last night. And believe me; what I saw in the dream disclosed to me that we were almost close to the point where the best is kept for us.

I’ve reiterated the fact often times that everyone needs to be faced with an option so he/she can make a choice; because if there’s no option, one may think, albeit ignorantly, that what he has is the best. In other words, ‘best’ is a superlative adjective which comes up after thorough comparison.

Two weeks ago during my business stay in Jos –Plateau State, I used the opportunity to meet one of my old time friends residing in the city. The young man in question recently took a woman to the altar barely three months ago, and I wasn’t opportune to attend the remarkable ceremony. The moment I entered his sitting room, he ushered the newest bride for a formal introduction. Having introduced me to her, he began by saying, “Engineer Fred, meet my best friend and soul mate…”, referring to the woman of the moment. That is by the way; please pardon the digression.

The topic before us is “Who’s your best friend?” The topic might seem or sound trivial but frankly speaking, it bears a very critical issue that requires to be treated with all manner of seriousness coupled with thoroughness.

In one of my previous publications titled “Commemorating the 2014 International Day of Friendship…” which had to do with the annual anniversary of the Int’l Day of Friendship as mandated by the United Nations (UN), I took my precious time to analyze extensively the real meaning of a friend. I made it known that, a friend is a person one likes and knows well. Furthermore, I stated that it could be defined as a supporter of a cause or a staunch fan of a certain organization.

The above definition implies that, a friend is the first person(s) you wish to call whenever you receive good news. Needless to say; a friend is that person or fellow that would like to accompany you on the most boring errands or trips and make them seem fun.

Significantly, going by the aforementioned statement, your best friend is one of your friends in whom you’re well pleased and wish to share all your blessings or burdens with. Mind you, one could boast of more than one best friend. But the problem we invariably face is how to know who is/are truly our best friend(s). Or in a nutshell, the qualities that make one your best friend. This is where the interest of today’s edition lies. Let’s ride on!

Beloved, there are certain distinct idiosyncrasies that a friend, brother, or sister bound to possess before he/she can be referred to as your best friend. Or, before you regard him/her as your ‘best friend’. You can see that I made mention of a brother or sister, because your relative can also be regarded as your friend; yes, one can be introduced as your brother or sister as well as your friend. You must be mindful of the fact that, not all your relations are your friends, considering the definition of ‘a friend’ stated above.

We have already made it clear that, one can never make a choice or acquire the best if there are no options. So for you to acquire the best, you must be placed with an option. The option would enable you to compare or contrast between the things or persons involved.

Let’s go straight to the point regarding who you’re meant to be seen or addressed as your best friend. Since your friend is that first person you wish to call whenever you receive any good or bad news as the case may be, then your best friend is that person who wishes to call you whenever he/she receives any good or bad news, this signifies that, there must be reciprocation in the kind of affection or feeling you have for the person you call your best friend. Therefore, as you wish to hear from him or her come rain come shine, he/she is also expected to wish that he/she hears from you in any circumstance. There’s no two ways about it.

Suffice to say that, anyone you regard as your best friend is expected to be there for you just as you are there for him or her. Summarily, the kind of affections that exist in best friendship must be reciprocal. The two or more parties involved must be there for each other regardless of the circumstance. We must have this at the back of our minds, so that, we won’t continue to derail as regards whom we regard as our ‘best friend’.

Regarding the above analyses, the first person that ought to be seen as one’s best friend is his/her mother, husband or wife as the case might be, because friendship between a child and his/her mother remains the best ever, likewise that of a man/woman and his or her wife/husband just as my bosom friend in Jos introduced his darling wife as his best friend.

At this juncture, I ask once again: who’s your best friend? Think about it!

 

FRED DOC NWAOZOR

frednwaozor@gmail.com

Abuse Of The Beauty Of Dress Among Mankind

 ABUSE OF THE BEAUTY OF DRESS AMONG MANKIND

 Greetings brethren. I’m immensely glad you are looking happier than before. That is exactly what every man prays for; yes, we all pray for increment or growth in our respective worthwhile endeavours. I’m also glad we’re all gorgeously dressed as if we knew what we would be discussing today. All the same; we’re highly welcome as usual.

I put it up to you that everyone prays to be faced with an option so he can make a choice, because if there’s no option, one may ignorantly think that what he has is the best. Of course ‘Best’ is a comparative adjective; thus, you can never tag something/someone as the best if there are no things/ones regarded as the ‘good’ or ‘better’ as the case might be. Suffice to say; ‘best’ is a superlative comparative adjective that’s being used after good and better respectively.

Barely three days ago, Friday August 8 to be precise, I was opportune to be in Asaba – the capital Territory of Delta state. During a tete-a-tete section with some of my associates in a certain hotel, I learnt from one of us who resides in Warri that, as regards dress (clothing) competition, Warri as a locality would take the last position. Though it was his personal opinion, but as an analyst, I tried to ascertain want prompted the perception. The man in question unequivocally ended-up saying that, on the average, a resident of Warri was nothing to write home about in regard to dress, because they were of the view that it doesn’t really speak for someone’s personality.

Dress, in a nutshell, is the kind of clothes someone is putting on. Generally, it is someone’s outfit or clothing in a given circumstance or occasion. In other words, one’s dress is the combination of all the wears he/she is putting on simultaneously. Take for instance; if you’re putting on a pair of knickers, T-shirt, face cap, and a pair of sandals at the same time, the combination of the aforementioned wears is your dress.

In the same vein; a piece of clothing worn by a woman or girl, which covers her body and extends down over her legs, can also be referred to as her dress. Summarily, one’s dress is anything or group of things he/she is wearing at a certain time or occasion.

The above definitions have clearly specified that one’s dress contributes immensely to his/her beauty. Believe me, dress plays a very vital role in someone’s beauty; frankly dress can make a Chimpanzee look like a fox. But it’s appalling to notice that the beauty of dress among mankind has been profoundly abused by all and sundry, especially in the African society.

Those days during the time of our ancestors, no doubt, there was originality with regard to the dress pattern they were used to. In fact, there was what could be regarded as ‘dress code’ among them. On the contrary, nowadays it’s quite disheartening to observe the enormous abnormality taking place amongst the human race, all in the name of ‘fashion’.  No one pays attention anymore to what he or she intends to wear to an occasion due to the present culture widely known as ‘Individual liberty’. Let’s ride on!

Individual liberty is the situation whereby one has the right to indulge in any social activity or behaviour without the intervention of his/her parents or guardian, let alone that of other members of the society he/she belongs. Considering dress, such culture or way of life simply signifies that anyone has the right to dress in a particular style as it pleases him/her.

The above stated culture is one of the negative side-effects of civilization. Frankly, civilization has endangered so many African cultures that were speaking volume in the continent. For instance, take a walk to the various campuses in Nigeria; you would see for yourself that there is tremendous decay in the pattern of dressing among the so-called students of the campuses.

Before now, everyone was of the view that the type of attire one is clad in, has to do with the nature of the occasion he/she wants to attend or the activity he/she intends to indulge in. But today, the reverse is completely the case. The youth no longer dress to suit the occasion or activity in question; rather, to suit the devil as well as his agents. It is even pathetic and disgusting to acknowledge the fact that, the elderly ones have followed suit. Hour of deliverance, brethren!

I’m using this medium to urge the law makers to enact a law bearing capital punishment in regard to throwing this rubbish to the waste bin where it rightly belongs. We can’t fold our hands and continue watching our society dying gradually out of negligence. It is our civic and collective responsibility to put this uncalled social deviance to the history book.

On the other hand, I wish to throw a sign of warning at this point. Those, especially the female folks, who continually derive pleasure from dressing either half-naked or totally nude, ought to wake up from their respective slumbers. I want to disclose to you that one’s dress is automatically his/her identity, contrary to the alleged believe of a typical Warri resident as reported by my associate. In fact, your dress is your first identity because it is what is being noticed the moment you present yourself.

At this juncture, I’m issuing you an ultimatum to turn away from your lackadaisical and evil ways, unless you don’t wish to appear happier than this by tomorrow. Mind you; you’re not faced with any option as regards this ultimatum. Think about it!

 

FRED DOC NWAOZOR

frednwaozor@gmail.com

   

The Imo State Nneoma Women Organization (Aired Newstalk)

PROPOSED VISIT OF THE IMO FIRST LADY TO ORU EAST LGA FOR THE INAUGURATION OF THE NNEOMA WOMEN ORGANIZATION – ORU EAST CHAPTER, TOMORROW TUESDAY AUGUST 12 – 2014

No doubt, women are like food condiments in any society in existence. No wonder it is widely in circulation that, any society without a woman is of no taste.

Since it has been proven that women are the essential catalyst in the democratic developmental process of any society, there is a cogent need to inculcate them into governance in order to achieve sustainable progress at all the levels of government which encompass local, state, and federal.

Considering this singular fact, there is an urgent need to reposition women towards utilizing their potentials in building a better society through the use of their respective families as the building block. This is exactly what the Imo First Lady is doing in Imo State via the establishment of various women groups.

Tomorrow being Tuesday August 12 - 2014, the Imo State First Lady –Nneoma Nkechi Rochas Okorocha would be in Oru East LGA ably led by Hon. Barr. Obinna Amagwula to inaugurate the “Nneoma Women Organization” of the council. The ongoing inaugural project, which commenced few weeks ago, is meant to take place in all the twenty-seven (27) Local Government Areas in Imo State.

The Nneoma Women Organization is aimed at repositioning and equipping Imo Women thereby sensitizing them to effectively discharge their duties in their respective homes and the society at large, as well as urging them to contribute their quota in the ongoing developmental strive of the Rescue Mission Agenda of the present Imo State government led by Governor Owelle Rochas Okorocha, OON.

The Nneoma Women Group is an association of good spirited women whose objectives includes: serving as a medium for encouraging and promoting peace, unity, coexistence, spiritual growth in various families and communities, coupled with the discovering and harnessing of hidden talents among women.

The Oru East Nneoma Women Organization, which has distinguished women like Evang. Esther Obong Egbuna, Dr Mrs. Akwuabia Nzeribe, Mrs. Ugonna Amagwula, Hon Mrs. Nma Michaels and Mrs Stella Udogwu as the leaders, is presently piloted by Mrs. Catherine Boniface and Hon. Mrs. Cecilia Okafor as the Chairperson and Secretary respectively.

Indeed the well-being of any family, society or nation anchors on the behavior of women, who are invariably regarded as the integral part of the global community. Suffice to say that, the Nneoma Women Group requires the collective support of all and sundry.

Surely just like salt, women help to preserve adequate value in the society. This fact is not unconnected to the speech made by Prof Mrs. G. G. Agulanna on the topic “Woman: Salt of the Family” during the recent Conference of the Nneoma Women organized by the amiable Imo First Lady, which took place at Ahiajoku Convention Centre – New Owerri on Thursday February 27, 2014.

It is worthy to remind us that the theme of that remarkable One-Day Conference, which featured series of lectures, interactive session, documentary presentations, among others, was “The Woman: Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow”. During the aforementioned conference, the Imo First Lady – Nneoma Nkechi Okorocha who delivered a lecture on “Etiquette and Courtesy”, stressed the importance of adopting polite and acceptable manners or attitude in every aspect of human endeavours. She went further to educate the women on social behavior, table manners, home management, just to mention but a few; and urged them to imbibe the culture of self-improvement.

As the lovely and loving Imo First Lady, Nneoma Nkechi Rochas Okorocha – Eji Ulo Eme Ogo, visits Oru East tomorrow 12^th of August 2014 to inaugurate the Oru East wing of this impeccable organization known as Nneoma Women Group, we humbly request the presence of all the stakeholders and well-meaning individuals of the council both home and in the diaspora, including the Traditional Rulers, Ndi Nze na Ozo, Civil servants, Senior citizens, Commercial drivers/motorcyclists, various party leaders, the youth, school children, gentlemen of the Press, and most importantly all the women organizations in Oru East LGA.

 

         

        COMR. FRED NWAOZOR

Public Affairs analyst & Social activist

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