Courtship towards Marriage

THE ESSENCE OF COURTSHIP TOWARDS MARRIAGE


Brethren, often times most people indulge in strenuous thought that doesn’t really worth it or which may be contrary to the issue at hand. Please before I proceed, in advance I wish to sincerely beg for your pardon because I’m of the view that I might be strident in this edition. I therefore pray that such intention won’t warrant a strife. Believe me, I truly don’t intend to hurt any soul, rather my paramount motive is to resurrect many.

At about eight O’clock in the morning (8.00 am) penultimate Monday, September 23 to be precise, I was about heading to the bathroom to have my usual morning shower in my family residence in Lagos State; I embarked on a trip to Lagos for some business transactions. Immediately my cell phone rang and the caller happened to be one of my friends residing at Owerri in Imo State. According to him, he actually called to inform me that he was about heading to my personal residence (lodge) in Owerri to discuss a very critical issue with me. Unfortunately I told him that I was presently in Lagos State; an information that suddenly brought a sad mood to his person. Yes I felt it because he sighed in subsequent to the notice. Having sensed the urgency of it, I promised to call him back after some minutes so we can have the discussion on phone; he was so delighted to receive the pledge. And by God’s grace, I fulfilled the promise.

As soon as I called him, he exclaimed that there was fire on the mountain. A statement that ushered in a question, “How?” which was the only word that managed to escape from my mouth. In response to my question, he hurriedly said that he just lost his fiancée to someone else; to the best of my knowledge, this is a woman he was about taking to the altar in few weeks time, and they just met about two months ago. I tried to ascertain what actually transpired between the two parties that has led to such ugly moment. The summary of the ordeal was that he caught her red handedly in her own bed with another man. They were making ‘love’ to each other I presume, because he thought it was inconsequential to give me the detail on a phone conversation. I really felt sorry for the poor man, thereby I pledged that I would come to his place the very moment I arrive at Owerri so we can round off the discussion one-on-one. Though I urged him to be a man and never allow the plight to disorganize him.

The bone of contention of whatever sermon I would be dishing out today is that, in anything we do, we must endeavour to consider time. If we fail to create time in respect to the prospects of any worthwhile activity we find ourselves, definitely the activity is liable to be found in shambles irrespective of the nature of the venture/activity. In other words, time remains the most vital tool when it calls for success in any of our respective strides. Honestly, you have no choice in this aspect; thus, it (time) remains a threshold whenever the issue of success/progress is in question

It beats my psyche intensely each time I watch people who live with the ideology that money can withstand or buy any situation one wishes. Such ideology is simply a fallacy; if not a daydream. Frankly, money can never buy intimacy. The only man that has the true potential to buy the aforementioned tool (intimacy) is no other person than ‘Time’. Q.E.D. Let’s ride on!

If you’re into a certain relationship and you think that with your money/wealth the woman in your life is all yours, then apparently you’ve been living with a deadly misconception. At this juncture, I put it up to you that if you are into any affair with a man/woman as the case may be and you desire to settle down with him/her, you must devote your time to such relationship if you sincerely want your wish to metamorphose into reality. Believe me, you can never bribe time; you must follow the due process whenever the issue of time is at hand or being considered. In other words, no one can maneuver it regardless of how powerful or wealthy he/she is.

I keep on telling people that the best thing that would happen to a man/woman is to marry his/her sister/brother as the case may be. Please don’t get me wrong; when I say getting married to your sister/brother, I meant getting married to your best friend. The best friend anyone can have or boast of, is someone who has/shares the same blood with you. Even if someone is not your sister/brother, he/she can share same blood with you if you both are devoted to each other. And such situation can never be possible if you fail to accommodate time to the fullness. In a nutshell, time can make a total stranger in your life to emerge as your bosom brother/sister in future.

One who shares same blood with you can never think of hurting you under normal circumstance unless he/she is being placed under a certain spiritual influence. This is the reason prayers are very essential in any relationship. Thus, if you are into a relationship you adore so much, you must endeavour to create time for it for the interest of its successs and as well your happiness. In addition, both of you ought to inculcate prayers.

If you’re dating someone and you wish to settle down with him/her, there’s need to experience intimacy prior to such eternal/everlasting union (marriage). And, this is where courtship sets in.

Courtship is an activity in which a man and a woman spend a lot of time together because they intend to get married. Going by the above definition, you will agree with me that courtship can never be successful if time is not adhered to. Devoting precious time to a relationship brings absolute understanding and trust amongst the partners involved which automatically yields true/genuine love. On this note, I wish to state unequivocally that the efficacy of courtship in any relationship cannot be overemphasized. If you’re still single and intend having/establishing a happy home in future, then I urge you to embrace this fact today; and I bet you, you would be glad you did.

Mind you, courtship coupled with sex is likely to ruin your intention/plan. Such attitude might make your partner to detest you at the long run with the aim of wanting to taste something different as regards sex/romance. But if you totally abstain from such act, your ultimate prayer would be to have/witness a day whereby you both would taste each other; therefore you would be earnestly yearning for a moment of marital vow. Above all, premarital sex is evil.

Brethren, many homes have collapsed because the partners involved failed to embrace courtship. The worst thing that would happen to a man/woman is to end up settling down with a stranger. Think about it!

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COMR. FRED NWAOZOR

frednwaozor@gmail.com